Saturday, January 21, 2012

My Thoughts: Hooking Up With The Same Person As Your Friend

So I've been thinking about this a lot lately and I can’t come to a conclusion as to why it happens. It seems to me that more than ever I’m hearing stories about guys and girls who pass themselves around through a group of friends; knowingly having sex with two or more people in a group.

What’s up with that?

I remember a time when it would be greatly frowned upon to do such a thing, however this almost seems like a normal occurrence nowadays. It used to be almost unheard of for a girl to have sex with one guy, then switch and have sex with his friend. I have to admit, I have even been victim a few times and I just don’t understand it.

First off, this is a universal issue: I’m not just calling out girls. I’ve seen girls hook up with two different guys and guys hook up with two different girls that are friends. So what’s the reason? Doesn’t anyone feel "dirty" or morally wrong for doing this? Obviously people have different sexual partners throughout their life but what is the attraction of going after someone your friend just fucked? This is suddenly not a big deal?

The thing that really upsets me is that I find myself questioning my friends trust. It used to be "guy code" not to touch a girl that one of your buddies brings around, but with this new wave of behavior I find myself always paranoid and on edge. Do I really have to worry about my friends as competition? That’s not right at all. (Side Note: There may be an acceptable time frame agreed upon both parties when a future hook up may be okay...).


The moral of the story is that you should respect your friends (for lack of a better word) "property" and lay off! The thought shouldn't even cross your mind.

What do you think? Any ideas of why this happens so much? Is it right or wrong?

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  1. I have coined a name for this.."Incestual Friends".

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    1. I think it depends on the circumstance. If the hookup meant nothing between the friend and the girl, how can she become his "property"? There's a fine line, but I don't think its always unacceptable. If it's agreed that it meant nothing, there were no feelings involved, or if it happened a long time ago, I think it's fair game.

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    2. I agree with you. There is a difference with just "hooking up" and being in a "start up" relationship. There are many factors that come into place when hooking up with someone. I am attempting to make the point that people's morals are deteriorating more and more when it comes to others feelings. Next time you're about to hook up with someone simply stop and ask yourself, is this right to do? If the answer is no, you probably shouldn't do it!

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  3. Fuck Hoes get Money

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